At Better Than Bitter™️, we believe that life’s events happen for you, not to you. This mindset guided me when I faced my own divorce. I realized that while divorce may not be a choice, how you approach it is entirely within your control. Viewing it as an opportunity for growth and transformation can make all the difference.
Divorce is uncharted territory—we often feel alone, uncertain about the future, and concerned about our children. Many see divorce as a failure, but that perspective is a choice. I chose to see it differently. Rather than focusing on what I wasn’t or should have done, I understood that divorce often reflects the other person’s needs and where they are in their life, something beyond my control. However, how I approached my divorce was within my control.
The process of divorce is undoubtedly challenging, but I kept my focus on a brighter future. I aimed to be strong, courageous, and clear about what I wanted for my children and myself. You have the power to view this bump in the road as either a major setback or an opportunity for personal growth. The choice is yours.
Through my journey of grieving and growth, I realized that more people going through divorce needed support and guidance. We all owe it to our children to divorce amicably. I personally went through my emotional divorce during the mediation process, and I recognized the importance of personal preparation before entering into a legal divorce. Acceptance and equipping oneself with the right tools can lead to a clear mindset, fostering peace and amicability, especially for the sake of becoming incredible co-parents to our children.
I discarded the “why” and focused on what truly mattered—the well-being of my children. This child-centered approach motivated me to advocate for amicable divorces to spare children from the pain of contentious litigation. Being part of the solution and not the problem became my mission.
I firmly believe that children suffer from the stigma of divorce. While we should commit to working on our marriages wholeheartedly, we also need to recognize that change and growth are inherent in being human. If life paths diverge, divorce should not be seen as inherently negative; it is how people approach divorce that determines the outcome. There should be no shame in making changes to live a fulfilled life.
Sharing the experience of achieving a positive, amicable divorce and how preparation for mediation eases the discomfort of the legal process drives my passion. As an entrepreneur, I am driven to create meaningful and impactful solutions, and helping others navigate the complexities of divorce aligns with my purpose. Paying it forward is central to my approach to life, as I believe that success is measured by what we give, not by what we receive. I find immense joy in helping others achieve their goals and sharing the wisdom and experience I’ve gained. By focusing on giving, I know I can make a positive impact on the lives of others and help them achieve the outcomes they desire.
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