Navigating Divorce: Embarking on an Unexpected Adventure

Navigating Divorce: Embarking on an Unexpected Adventure

By Deanna Coyle, Vesta Co-Founder and Concierge Director

Imagine stepping into an unfamiliar landscape – with a language you can’t comprehend, customs you’ve never encountered, and a future that’s shrouded in ambiguity. Now imagine that this isn’t a foreign country, but rather the intricate journey of divorce.

Yes, going through a divorce can be compared to venturing into a foreign country. Both involve embarking into the unknown and confronting a medley of emotions. And both can teach us valuable lessons about life, growth, and self-discovery. Let’s explore the similarities between divorce and traveling and uncover tips for learning, personal growth, and embracing new beginnings.

Practical Tips for Your Divorce Journey

Tip 1: Educate yourself

Legal jargon, custody arrangements, and financial negotiations can feel like a foreign language. However, just as we learn key phrases and adapt to communicate in a foreign country, educating ourselves about divorce laws and seeking guidance from trusted professionals can help bridge the communication gap and empower us to navigate the process more effectively. Books, online platforms, or workshops – such as Vesta’s complimentary and educational webinars – can be great resources to understand the fundamentals of divorce law, parenting plans, and financial matters.

Tip 2: Build a support network

Going through a divorce often triggers a rollercoaster of emotions, much like the highs and lows of traveling abroad. Initially, we may feel lost, uncertain, and overwhelmed, just as we might upon arriving in a foreign land. However, as time progresses, there can be moments of self-discovery, empowerment, and personal growth, much like the joy and awe that can arise from immersing oneself in a new culture. Just as a traveler may seek out fellow explorers or connect with locals for guidance, building a support network during divorce is essential. Seek support from therapists, coaches, and support groups to navigate the ups and downs of divorce.

Tip 3: Keep an open mind

Travel often gifts us with fresh perspectives and exposes us to new ways of thinking. Similarly, divorce can provide an unexpected path for personal growth and self-reflection. It prompts us to examine our values, priorities, and goals, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of ourselves. By embracing this transformative period, we can emerge with a renewed sense of purpose, resilience, and a clearer vision for our future.

Tip 4: Take care of yourself

During both divorce and travel, food and adventure can serve as a form of self-care. Experiencing new cuisines can evoke fond memories, create connections, and nourish the soul. 

Treat yourself to some quality “me time”. Take a walk through nature, pamper yourself with a bubble bath, or catch up with a dear friend. Experiment with new recipes or try out a cuisine that you’ve always wanted to. This could be a delightful and delicious form of self-care!

Tip 5: Explore yourself anew

Both divorce and traveling take us out of our comfort zones, encouraging us to explore new horizons and embrace the unknown. Just as we embark on a quest to uncover new cultures and experiences during travel, divorce challenges us to rediscover ourselves and what truly makes us happy. Engage in activities that spark joy and rejuvenation–yoga, painting, hiking, or any pursuit that resonates with your soul.

🌟 Join Our Tribe 🌟

Embarking on your divorce journey needn’t be a solo expedition. Join Vesta’s community where understanding, empathy, and uplifting stories await. Attend our free events, speak with our Divorce Professionals, and connect with our Divorce Concierge for guidance. Remember, whether you’re considering divorce, in the thick of it, or dusting yourself off post-divorce, you are never alone. Vesta is here to offer a community brimming with individuals who have journeyed through the trials of divorce and emerged more robust and resilient on the other side.

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About Deanna:

Deanna Coyle, the Co-Founder and Concierge Director at Vesta, knows all too well the emotional and financial complexities that accompany divorce. Having endured a challenging and draining marital separation herself, Deanna intimately understands the isolation and frustration that can permeate the divorce process. As the leader of Vesta’s Divorce Concierge Service, she has had the privilege of guiding thousands through their own divorce journeys. Armed with empathy and a deep understanding of what participants are experiencing, Deanna and her dedicated Concierge Team excel at matching individuals with the most appropriate professionals and resources tailored to their unique circumstances.

In the summer of 2023, Deanna embarked on a journey to Portugal with her 20-year-old son. As they explored this captivating land, Deanna couldn’t help but draw parallels between navigating the unfamiliar landscapes and navigating the uncharted waters of separation and divorce. This illuminating experience served as the inspiration behind the blog post you are reading today.


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