Top 3 Tips for Dating and Finding Love

Top 3 Tips for Dating and Finding Love

By Susan Trotter, Ph.D.

Are you single, interested in dating, and nervous about trying? Or have you been online and not met any good matches yet?

Well, there is no better time than now to be dating! Online dating memberships have continued to increase significantly and this is the most popular time of year to be online. Millions of people want to find love just like you!

How you approach it matters, though. Here are three key strategies for setting yourself up to be more successful in the dating process:

  1. It is important to understand the role that mindset plays in this process. If you have done your emotional work and feel confident and positive about yourself, dating, and relationships, then you are much more likely to attract people who also are positive and in a good place emotionally. And of course, the opposite is true, too. Negativity attracts negativity. Take the time to work through any issues you may have post-divorce, and approach dating and relationships with a positive mindset. It will make a huge difference in the experience you have. Plus, confidence is sexy and that’s always good for dating and relationships!
  2. In addition to being confident and positive, it is also important to create a full and joyful life for yourself that other people will want to be a part of. When you do this, you can then date intentionally and be more selective about who you invite in to enhance your life, rather than choosing people – and often settling – to fill voids in your life. Focus on setting up a good and happy life for yourself and raise your standards when looking for potential matches.
  3. Learn how to navigate the dating world, especially with regard to online dating. Understand that it is a process, and there are specific strategies for creating a profile that will attract the kind of people you want, assessing other profiles, communicating through the sites, and more. It is also beneficial to remember that everything people present to you is information that you can use to assess them for quality and potential fit. Understanding how to manage this process will help you to be more successful in it. 

If you want to learn more about how to be successful in dating and finding love, please contact Susan Trotter, Ph.D. at or at 508-314-0486, and follow her on Facebook at Her website is

Click here to learn more about Susan.

Receive Our Free Guide:
"26 Ways to Reduce Expenses During Divorce"

VESTA sends 2 emails per month with valuable divorce and lifestyle tips and blogs, as well as information on our upcoming confidential events. We respect your privacy and do not share our lists with third party vendors.
This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.