Vesta’s most popular event, its Divorce Retreat, shares a consistent theme with all of the professionals: The importance of self-care and achieving personal progress, NOT perfection.
When navigating life through divorce, practicing self-care and feeling good about yourself is an important component in making the best possible decisions for your future.
As a Personal Trainer and Health & Wellness Coach, I focus a lot on the pursuit of “Progress, Not Perfection”. This is a philosophy I have adopted in both my personal and professional life. It can be applicable to many things, including self-care, work, weight loss and big projects, as well as the divorce process.
Here are two important things to remember when setting and working toward goals for yourself:
1. Many goals take time and can’t be accomplished in a day.
Progress, Not Perfection is about breaking down large, overwhelming tasks or goals into smaller, more manageable ones that are more easily attainable.
Moving even one step forward is progress, as opposed to getting stuck in the “all or nothing” mindset, such as “If I can’t do it perfectly, I’m not going to do it at all.”
During my Self-Care presentation at our last divorce retreat, we discussed the importance of adding movement into our daily routine. After much discussion of the “progress, not perfection” concept, we agreed that even 15 minutes of movement was better than none and represents improvement. By adopting this concept, any amount of time given to movement can be considered progress.
The divorce process and self-care are all about progress. While working through your divorce, make sure to implement a self-care plan–including nourishing your body, adding movement, sleeping well, and finding gratitude–to guarantee you’re getting the self-love you need through a difficult time.
2. What IS possible is taking a small action each day that will bring you closer to your goal.
In terms of self-care, it could be something as small as spending 1 minute each day on deep breathing, focusing on relaxation techniques, or choosing to park your car further from your destination to get a little more movement. Other ideas include getting 5 minutes of extra sunlight, which may help you sleep better; or writing down something that you are grateful for when you wake up or before you go to bed. Studies have shown that practicing gratitude can increase happiness (via International Business Research Journal).
Whatever you choose, find one thing every day–no matter how small–that will bring you a step forward. That is how progress is made. And making progress is far better than striving for perfection, which doesn’t really exist!
Wishing all of you a year of personal progress, not perfection!
Lisa Dahl worked in the boutique catering space for years before following her passion and starting her own business as a Personal Trainer and Health & Wellness Coach in Bolton, MA. You may find her online at www.astudioat68.com.